The After Love Moment (NRR)

[Big_Stacks]

The complementarity issue is SO IMPORTANT. It's great to find a mate that shores up your weak spots and vice-versa. Outside of common values (e.g., integrity, fidelity, religious faith, ambition, etc.), my wife is everything I am not. She is introverted, I'm outgoing. She is meticulous, I'm less so. She's Type A, I'm Type B. So, my wife augments me a great deal by reminding me to do things that my flighty-ass forgets and ensure that bills are done on-time. I, on the other hand, make the calls for various services (e.g., take-out, repairs, etc.) and tell her to chill when she frets over something that's not a big deal. In that way, me and my baby are an unstoppable two-headed dream team.





Peace,





Big Stacks from Kakalak

WORD Stacks. That's exactly me and my girlfriend right there.





I'm 23 and still pretty young so there's so many temptations out there, ya know??!








QUESTION FOR THE GROWN FOLK:





Will these temptations somewhat subside once you are married?





one more:





do you need to hump as often and as many people as possible when you are young to "get it out of your system"?




Hey Yuichi,





In all honesty, fidelity is easy!!!! You can be faithful by habit. When you finish work, bring your ass home instead of stopping by bars to pick-up women. Don't hit on women when you're out having a drink. Simple. The work of marriage is that day-to-day grind when life stresses are buggin' you, along with the wife at times. Fuck tuxes, wedding dresses, rings, and rose petals, the realness of marriage is some blue-suit, name-patch shit!!! Remember, marriage means you live with the same woman every day, which can be work!!! There are days she's gotten on your last nerve, but you gotta work that shit out. It's easy when you're dating and living in different cribs, cause you can just bounce. When you're married, you go to separate rooms to cool off, or out to take a drive. But, you gotta get in there and work that shit out when you're married instead of breaking up on some emotional, childish shit like when you're single. Feel me????





As for your second question, gettin' the bonin' out of your system is a personal choice. In my opinion, I don't think ANYONE in their early 20's should get married because they haven't had enough varied experiences. You need to date a variety of women so that you can figure out what you like and dislike. I got married just shy of my 30th birthday, and I had been sick of humpin' dumb bimbos for about 3-4 years. When I hit my mid-20's, I had outgrown the club, pick-up scene. I wanted a real woman, my soulmate that I eventually found and married.





Peace,





Big Stacks from Kakalak

 

[yuichi]

cool thanks for your reply Stacks! anyone else care to share their thoughts?

 

[Birdman9]

Stacks hit it on the head again. The ease of Fidelity though varies from person to person, though. I find that sometimes I miss the superficial thrill of meeting women that I may hit it off with, but it's fleeting, Thank God. But when you are older and married, for me it's the same as missing your care-free college days...I can't help it, sometimes I just resent growing up. But the reality is better than the "what-ifs".

Have fun, but keep your eyes peeled...most of us dudes miss some good women while we are out there sowing our oats.

 

[Big_Stacks]

Have fun, but keep your eyes peeled...most of us dudes miss some good women while we are out there sowing our oats.

So true, superficiality (alone) and marriage make terrible bed fellows. I know cats that married women based mostly on their appearance and they're miserable (and some are divorced). I met some beautiful, emotionally maladjusted women when I was out there. They taught me well that you gotta look both inside and outside when choosing a mate.

Peace,

Big Stacks from Kakalak

 

[drewnice]

Before noon this thread was dead in the water, save for Birdman and noxie!





Now, it's gonna take me all night to read and let these words settle in.





Props!





(It's been a very good day on SoulStrut)

 

[Jonny_Paycheck]

Yuichi - IMO the temptation NEVER goes away. You will always see some girl that seems hotter, different, freakier, cooler, whatever, grass is always greener. But like Big Stacks said (damn hommie you need a call in radio show) you just get out by habit. Don't put yourself in those situations. If your girl is holding it down for you then you should rather be home anyway. If you're feeling like you'd rather be out scoping new chicks, maybe you are not at the right place in your life for a long-term relationship.

Also, whereas at the start of a relationship you might be easily swayed, after a few years it is really easy to turn down new chicks... I mean, wifey holds it down, right? All that nasty shit you talk in bed is true right? OK then. It's easy enough to find a good lay but it's much harder to find a girl that knows you straight up and down (and that makes the sex SO much better). So to me it becomes pretty logical, even though you will always see some chick and be like "i will WORK YOU SON!"

 

[drewnice]

It's easy enough to find a good lay but it's much harder to find a girl that knows you straight up and down (and that makes the sex SO much better). So to me it becomes pretty logical, even though you will always see some chick and be like "i will WORK YOU SON!"

JP is just too much!

 

[funky16corners]

Yo sometimes my wife and I are chillin in the bed watching Dragon Ball Z on a saturday night and we are having a pleasant conversation, (yes I am capable of that) and I think to myself "Wow, we are just sitting here enjoying each others company talking about our week and we are just best friends... I really could not just do this with just anyone... what would I be doing if I did not have her? Does she feel the same way?"... then I start feeling lovey dovey... and I thank God that he answered my prayers for a good wife... I didn't get all the things I asked for, I dont even really remember what I asked for, but I got what I needed and some things I didnt know I needed.

I feel fuzzy.

Realness...

 

[faux_rillz]

Yuichi - IMO the temptation NEVER goes away. You will always see some girl that seems hotter, different, freakier, cooler, whatever, grass is always greener. But like Big Stacks said (damn hommie you need a call in radio show) you just get out by habit. Don't put yourself in those situations. If your girl is holding it down for you then you should rather be home anyway. If you're feeling like you'd rather be out scoping new chicks, maybe you are not at the right place in your life for a long-term relationship.

Also, whereas at the start of a relationship you might be easily swayed, after a few years it is really easy to turn down new chicks... I mean, wifey holds it down, right? All that nasty shit you talk in bed is true right? OK then. It's easy enough to find a good lay but it's much harder to find a girl that knows you straight up and down (and that makes the sex SO much better). So to me it becomes pretty logical, even though you will always see some chick and be like "i will WORK YOU SON!"

Translation: stay on top of your wax game.

 

[Jonny_Paycheck]

I am saying. I mean, when the leaves obscure the root, it's time for a trim...

 

[yuichi]

haha. Word paycheck.

Don't put yourself in those situations.

this is VERY logical.